“Women at our stage in life don’t go to bachelorette parties.”
A professional acquaintance said this to me just over six years ago. The statement inspired a blog I launched the next day. That blog sparked the idea for Becker Circle, my romantic suspense. I’m reviving this blog, originally published in August 2012, because there’s another bachelorette party this weekend where friends will celebrate the bride’s new chapter. The conversation captured a meaningful part my self-discovery that might inspire others experiencing fresh starts. I’m no longer single, but I’ll certainly be there to enjoy the celebration. I wish Miss Annie all of the best this next part of her life! xo
As authors, we’re always told to make every word count, and she certainly did. Each word is wrong in so many ways. “At our stage in life.” What stage? Age? Frumpy mom with no personal style? Speak for yourself sista! Or is it just judgment of bachelorette parties in general? And please don’t use “our” to put me in your life’s bucket!
Her statement made me think about this new experience of being single again. I’m having the time of my life and want to share and learn from the other single girls out there. Just like words to a writer, we have to make every experience count.
I felt so lucky to get to be a part of this bachelorette party. While hanging out at the house watching the adult entertainment, dining in a hip restaurant, and bar hopping, I saw a close group of friends, most of whom had grown up together, have fun, bond, and share best wishes with their friend before she started a wonderful new chapter in her life. The coolest part, the honoree’s younger sister and mom were there partying with group.
The bride-to-be lived next door. She was my first new friend to make me feel welcome in my new neighborhood and to my new life. Besides having a unique, magnetic personality, she is at least half mermaid. I wish her luck as she begins her new life now, and am relieved her fiancée has a pool.
If doesn’t matter if a girl is 25, 42 or 80, have your bachelorette party if you want to! And invite your friends of any age!
Never a need to justify celebrating!